The beautiful memories of my sons' childhood, August 19, 2008

I do know there are a lot of precious moments motherhood that I won't need to remember as a memory for myself, because they will be stored in my heart and my soul. They will make me who I am. But because I may not have all the memories in word to tell to my children when they grow up, or possibly to my grandchildren , some day . Yes, My sister Behjat is right. I should try to write when ever I can.

I do believe that my sons are smart enough to be able to do what ever they want. They already know much more than other children in their age know. They love to learn and love to do new things.

River is very brave and goes to try everything and Relic wants to follow his brother in physical activities. But I believe Relic is a better child to follow directions than River is. Relic listens carefully and wants to absorb what ever you are teaching him. But River wants to experience things by himself.

Am I wrong ? August 17, 2008

Long time ago, when I was not a mother yet, I was not enough patient with children. I would be mad if they were doing something that was not a "proper" thing to do. I thought I was being strict. But I couldn't understand that a lot of things were very proper to do for little kids !

Now, being a mother of two super active and smart 28 months old boys, I understand that kids need to explore a lot of things around them. Things that are not new for us at all, can be very interesting for kids to discover. I don't remember in which book I read that toddlers are like cavemen ! Should we expect a caveman to sit at the table and eat like us ? Should we expect a caveman to just sit on the couch crossing his legs ? Or even worse, expecting toddlers to be like brainless robots and repeat- please & thank you - to us ? I think that's just being impatient to not let a child being a child or even worse, it is being lazy to not want to sit and talk with a child to help him understand why we don't like what he is doing. We should give more respect to our children and do more than what we do for our pets ! Am I really wrong ?

I really don't feel comfortable to go to places that don't have enough respect for my children and act towards them like they are just puppies which need to learn! I am really going to rethink about where I should take my children. I know it is not a very easy decision to make but it really hurts me to see how some people are narrow minded about who a child is !

Entry for August 11, 2008

Relic had his last visit with his Early Intervention teacher, Allison today. The boys have learned a lot during the six months of visiting Allison one hour each week. Allison is a very caring and kind person who loves children. It is kind of sad, thinking that the boys won't have her as much. Of course they are still going for Early Intervention playgroups and can see Allison occasionally there, but still ....

River had his last visit last week. They both are doing amazingly well. They surprise me everyday with all the things that they know. Allison is right : River and Relic are sponges. They learn very fast and are growing up fast too. I was looking at their feet some time ago and thinking that those feet don't look like babies' feet any more. I look at their baby pictures and it feels like it was just yesterday !

I do enjoy having them every single minute as age as they are. I want them to grow up and I do want them to enjoy every moment of their childhood.