These days, I am having a tough time telling NO to my sons. It is not like I have decided to not spoil them any more. Because I don't believe if I have been spoiling them. I believe that they are very smart boys who want to discover everything around them, but they also are very caring boys. They do a very good job sharing their toys with other children when we go to playgrounds and also, when they see that I am not happy with they have been doing, they stop doing it, come and want to give me a hug. But they just need to stop and think what the situation is and if their mother is happy with what that they are doing. And this, doesn't happen often .... It is just because they are very smart and active 2 year old boys. We have to understand that!
They do know all the lower case and upper case English alphabet, they can count to 14 and sometimes more and recognize them. They know 11 colors : red, green, blue, yellow, orange, black, white, brown, pink, purple and gray . But because they are smart, we should not expect them to act like adults. They are just 26 months ! We should give them right to climb up the furniture, jump and many other things that adults don't do. Maybe I couldn't understand this when I didn't have children, but now I know how different children's world can be. And I believe it is more different than ours especially if they are smart and active children.
I don't know... Sometimes I think like maybe I am spoiling my sons to let them do a lot of things and feel really bad when others want to stop them ( especially if it makes my sons feel embarrassed ) But I believe my there is always a good way to stop my sons from doing things that we don't want them to do. It is not like I think my sons can go and do what ever they want, but I really feel bad if adults stop my sons not caring about how these little guys are going to feel.
When 3 months ago we were going to see my sister and her husband in Texas for 10 days, I was worried ... Knowing how neat and clean my sister is ( Oh! she used to be hypersensitive about cleaning everything ) I was worried if she would feel bad about my sons touching or possibly breaking the new things in her new house and that's why I had wanted to talk with her before we bought the ticket. We saw how patient and kind her husband and her were to my children during our long visit.
I know there are things that I need to change about my children. Because they are growing up. I am trying to do that. I have already started to put them in bed, without me lying down with them. I just sit on a glider in their bedroom, caressing their little feet sometimes. Today I started to take away their blankets during the day. They are very attached to their blankets was really hard for them. But I tried to make them busy with books and games. They do handle changes very well and I am really proud of them.
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